Talk to your doctor about premature ejaculation

When it comes to premature ejaculation, the good news is that there are treatments available. It’s not something you or your partner needs to live with. Raising the topic can, of course, be embarrassing. However, it’s important to realise that your doctor deals with sexual health matters on a very routine basis. Remember too, that premature ejaculation is common – affecting up to 1 in 3 men.

Here are a few tips to make the process a little less intimidating:

Before your appointment

1. Take the PE test

If you’re unsure whether or not you suffer from premature ejaculation, you can take our quick, online questionnaire. When you’re done, you may also want to print out your results. They can be an easy way to raise the issue with your doctor.

Take the PE Test

2. Talk with your partner

If you’re comfortable doing so, having an open conversation with your partner may help clarify things for you, or give you a clearer understanding of your symptoms. Of course, you only need to have this conversation when the time is right for you.

3. Write some notes

If you think you’re likely to find the doctor’s visit a little uncomfortable, then it can help to write some notes to refer to. You may wish to write these with your partner.

4. Watch this video

Feeling nervous about going to the doctor to discuss premature ejaculation? Don’t worry – it’s normal!

At your appointment

1. Focus on what’s important

Premature ejaculation is a common problem, and doctors discuss sexual health matters on a daily basis. Even though you may feel embarrassed at first, try to focus on the possible outcome – and how it would feel to regain control over your sex life.

2. Get the conversation started

When you meet with your doctor, here are a few ways you may want to bring up the topic:

“I have a sexual health matter I would like to discuss.”

“I’ve heard there are some treatments available for premature ejaculation, and I wanted to see if they would be relevant for me.”

What to expect from your doctor

Raising the issue is the hardest part. Hopefully it will be followed by an open chat about your symptoms, how you feel, and what can be done.

Your doctor will probably ask you a series of questions. Some might be about your sex life or specifically about premature ejaculation. Others will be about your general health and lifestyle and might not seem related to premature ejaculation. By being frank and honest with your answers, you’ll help the doctor understand your problem and recommend an appropriate treatment.

What happens next?

If your doctor diagnoses you with premature ejaculation, the next step is to discuss treatment. There are a number of options available and your doctor will work with you to find a treatment solution that suits you.

Give honest feedback to the doctor regarding the treatment and how well it is working. You might need to try a couple of approaches before you find one that suits you. Feel free to make notes during your appointment too.

How do I help my partner with PE

Talking to your partner about PE can be a difficult topic but by being there and helping him through it, you can work together to restore sexual satisfaction.

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How do I treat PE?

Premature ejaculation is a defined medical condition according to the International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM), so the best person to talk to is your doctor.

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